Updated
Updated · Slate · Jul 29
Husband Halts Sex After Wife Seeks 1 Open-Marriage Exception for Women
Updated
Updated · Slate · Jul 29

Husband Halts Sex After Wife Seeks 1 Open-Marriage Exception for Women

2 articles · Updated · Slate · Jul 29

Summary

  • A 38-year-old wife said her husband stopped initiating sex after she disclosed long-standing attraction to women and asked to explore sex outside their marriage ahead of their 10th anniversary.
  • The husband now believes she no longer wants him and that the marriage was a sham, while she says she misspoke and still sees him as “the love of my life.”
  • Slate’s advice column said his reaction may reflect insecurity as much as her communication, and urged her to show continued desire through repeated initiation and direct reassurance.
  • The column also suggested delaying outside exploration or proposing a shared experience with another woman if both partners agree, framing any next step as a way to protect the marriage rather than threaten it.

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