Updated
Updated · The Guardian · Sep 28
Author Tames Social Anxiety With 2 Therapist Questions
Updated
Updated · The Guardian · Sep 28

Author Tames Social Anxiety With 2 Therapist Questions

1 articles · Updated · The Guardian · Sep 28

Summary

  • Two questions — “What’s the worst that could happen?” and “And then what?” — became the author’s main tool for interrupting spirals over social situations.
  • The therapist used them near the end of treatment to force a realistic endpoint: even after embarrassment, the author could simply go home, sleep and start again the next day.
  • That reframing helped in concrete moments that once felt unbearable, including a first-day university introduction, dates, job interviews and a move from the UK to Australia.
  • The author says the technique still works in everyday encounters, turning social anxiety from something that dictated avoidance into something that can be managed in real time.

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